Sometimes it happens suddenly and for others, it is a slow build over a long period of time. But there will come a day when you begin to notice that your aging parent or loved one needs more help than they used to. Many times, senior loved ones will not reach out or admit they are unable to do tasks and chores that used to be easy or routine. This may leave you, and them, feeling anxious and alone as you begin to notice and navigate the signs that indicate more help is needed. A sudden illness or injury may exacerbate this need but this will be more obvious and at this point, additional help may be welcomed. Talking on the phone or video message may hide some signs because your loved one may be embarrassed to admit that they can no longer manage certain daily activities and may hide it from you. More likely, you will probably begin to notice signs or differences in behavior during a visit. It may come all at once, or it may become obvious during time together that has come after some time has passed since your last visit. Understanding the challenging emotions and knowing the signs will help you determine when your loved one should move into a Woodbridge, VA memory care community.
The First Signs
Whether these come quickly or not, most people feel unprepared because the first signs usually surface without anyone realizing what is happening. Perhaps your loved one has started to withdraw from activities, forget to take medication, or stop taking care of themselves or their home and during a visit, you suddenly become aware of what is happening. Worry and fear start to creep in because even though the signs may seem small at first, they are major indicators for an aging parent's safety and well-being. This leaves you asking yourself, what can I do?
The first step is to be aware of what may happen. Here are some common signs to look for during a visit:
- Leaving a stove burning
- Unsafe driving habits
- Unable to keep up with housekeeping or hoarding
- Failure to maintain or manage medication
- Poor hygiene
- Not enough food or dehydration
- Clothing is not appropriate or not right for the season
- Confusion or forgetfulness
- Repairs needed or broken necessities
If any of these signs or concerns are left too long or not monitored, it can become dangerous for your loved one’s health and safety. Having to discuss important health related issues or personal safety may be especially difficult for everyone. Starting the conversation may be challenging and you may be met with anger or frustration from your loved one. Letting your loved one be heard and fulfilling their wishes should be the first consideration. However, it is also important to let them hear your concerns and explain why you are feeling the way you do and what you have noticed. This is a natural way to move the conversation to discuss memory care options available.
Talking About Memory Care
Moving the conversation forward and discussing a move to memory care will require families and caregivers to ensure that everyone is on the same page and there is open, clear communication. The potential future changes and possibly even just having the conversation may cause emotions to run high as your family manages this next chapter. Keep in mind that people handle change and transition differently. What works for one person and their family might not be best for you and your and yours.
Expect the Unexpected
There is no right way to know what you are going to feel throughout this process and it is ok if your own emotions catch you off guard. You may want to recognize and accept that the entire process will be challenging for your loved one, for you and your family as well. Preparing everyone means that you understand there will be unexpected hurdles and emotions and this will likely not be as easy as you think. You can all face these challenges together and not be as surprised when difficulties or big emotions pop up along the way.
Know the Resources and Programs Available
Once you have made the decision that moving to a memory care community is right for your loved one, researching highly rated memory care communities should be your next step. The benefits they offer will begin before your loved one even moves in. These communities will offer all sorts of support to make the process and move as smooth as possible. These communities will be able to talk to you about the options they offer that support your loved one’s move to memory care in Woodbridge, VA. There may be classes or events that you can attend or personal counselors to assist in the smaller details. Trust in their knowledge and experience to help you along the way.
The most important first step in this process is to reassure your loved one by being supportive, calm and understanding by validating their feelings. Every day will not be easy, but in time things will get easier and you will know that your loved one is both safe and comfortable.
Arbor Terrace Prince William Commons is a senior living community in Woodbridge, VA offering exceptional care in assisted living and memory care. Please call 703-721-8801 to schedule a tour today!
