When was the last time you made a new friend? As we get older and more settled, it’s easy to get in the habit of doing the same things with the same people. We don’t have the opportunity or the necessity to widen our circle of friends. But having these relationships is vital for seniors.
A study by the National Institutes of Health shows that staying socially engaged goes hand in hand with staying healthy. Seniors who isolate themselves face an increased risk of physical and mental health problems.
A move to a senior living community is a great opportunity to make new friends with folks who are living through the same phase of life. However, for some people, this may bring back the anxiety of being the new kid in middle school who is struggling to find a friend.
Here are our favorite ways to get past that anxiety and make friends at your new senior living community:
An open door is a welcoming invitation for all who pass by to pop in and say hi.
Even with your door open, you won’t meet too many people if you stay in your room all day. By going to activities that you enjoy, you’ll make connections with people who share your interests.
Even if you are just reading a book or watching television, you never know whom you might meet.
People are more likely to stop and say hello if you have a smile on your face. If you come across as a grouch, people may avoid talking to you.
When choosing a table in the dining room, sit at one where people are actively engaged in conversation and smiling and laughing. They are likely to welcome you into their group.
If you notice a resident who eats alone or seems to be standoffish, try reaching out to them. That person may also be having trouble making new friends.
People of all ages enjoy demonstrating their knowledge to others. Simply asking for directions to an activity, or advice on the best thing to order at lunch can open the door to a conversation that may lead to friendship.
Seniors are no different from the rest of us. They want to feel heard and understood. If you spend more time listening than talking, people will seek you out for conversation.
Don’t rule out potential friends just because they’re different from you or the types of people with whom you usually form friendships.
It may take you a while to form connections that develop into true friendships. And don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t want to be your friend. You’ll find your people sooner or later.
At senior living communities like Arbor Terrace Hamilton Mill in Dacula, staff members introduce new residents to those who have been there for a while in order to foster friendships. They make it a point to connect people who share similar interests or hobbies. Plus, Arbor Terrace offers a full calendar of activities and regular outings, giving residents plenty of opportunities to socialize.
If you’d like to find more about the active lifestyle at Arbor Terrace Hamilton Mill, call 770-999-0421 to arrange a tour.